Five Ways to Control Your Tongue

Here are some tips on how we can control our tongues and increase in patience both in our communication with others and within ourselves:

1. Think

The phrases “think before you speak” and “if you don’t have something nice to say, don’t say anything at all” seemclichéd, but hold a lot of weight in the life of Muslims. It has sadly become common to be irritable when we are fasting, so we tend to snap quicker and say things we don’t really mean. In order to combat this, think about what you are about to say before you open your mouth. It sounds simple, but we have become so accustomed to speaking without thinking that words just seem to fly out of our mouths before we know it.

Tip: Try to take a couple moments before you speak to evaluate whether what you are about to say is beneficial or necessary. Use your hunger, weakness, tiredness (whatever it is that you’re feeling) to prevent you from opening your mouth unnecessarily!). Spend more time doing dhikr, or thinking, or contemplating than wasting time on unnecessary speech, which is not beneficial and potentially harmful.


2. Apologize

Hard as it may be, if we do happen to say something that is hurtful to someone, just simply apologize. Whether it was what you said or how you said it, remind yourself to apologize for your misbehavior if you feel like you stepped out of line (regardless of whether or not the other person shows that they feel hurt or upset). This can have nothing but positive effects. Many of us have trouble apologizing to people and accepting our mistakes so it will both humble us and also ensure that we are more careful next time, because it can be pretty uncomfortable to accept your mistake and verbalize it. Secondly, it can help better your relationship with the other person, because you are showing that you are aware of their feelings and that you care about them.

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Make someone smile today

T Azeez Luthfullah, Br Sheikh Ismail, Moulana Syed Jalaludeen Umari, Br Adil Sait and Dr S.Q.R Ilyas

It takes just a second to change our lives.
A careless driver, a passing snake, a scream unheard…
Our whole world can turn upside down without a moment’s notice.
We may even die before we know it.


I’m not saying that we should not do anything with our lives.
We all know the story of the man who refused to leave his room for the fear that a car might run over him or a tree might fall on him, and finally was killed when a painting that fell from the wall hit him on the head.
I want to say just this:
In the little time that we live, let’s do good things.

Lend a helping hand, now and then.
Add colour to someone’s life.
Go on. Make someone smile today..

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Five ways to give 'physical' Sadaqah

The Prophet (pbuh) said: “Every good deed is charity.” (Bukhari)

He also said: “On every person’s joints or small bones (i.e. fingers and toes), there is sadaqah (charity) due every day when the sun rises. Doing justice between two people is sadaqah; assisting a man to mount his animal, or lifting up his belongings onto it is sadaqah; a good word is sadaqah; every step you take towards prayer is sadaqah; and removing harmful things from pathways is sadaqah.” [Muslim]

 

So based on the hadeeth above, here are five ways you can start to give ‘physical’ sadaqah this ramadan. The list is hardly exhaustive however as you read, ask yourself how you can implement these acts of charity in your daily schedule to increase your good deeds inshaAllah:

1. Always start with a smile:

We can never underestimate the wonders behind a smile. The Prophetic teachings tell us that every smile is charity.

So step one is to make sure you smile; often opportunities in the day arise where we can effortlessly smile and spread the salaam, such as when your on the road travelling, going to work, at the mosque, when you pass by a homeless person, when you meet guests or see children (as often it brings a smile to their face too!)

2. Remember Allah frequently:

To remember Allah is to give sadaqah with your tongue. The value and weight of dhikr are heavy and outstanding, and is our key to being rich in our relationship with Allah (Subahanahu Wa Ta’la). In an amazing narration the Prophet advised the one who could not give money to charity, or offer anything from their possessions, to increase in performing dhikr as a better equivalent.

Allah (Subahanahu Wa Ta’la) says in Surah Al-Baqarah: ‘Remember Me, and I will remember you’ [2:152].

You might wonder where you can start as there are so many adhkars for so many occassions.

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